Archive for November, 2010

Romance is often overcomplicated. Billboards and television would have modern men believe that romance is tied directly to the money spent, the outfit worn, or the extremity of the act of love presented. I have found that there are very simple ways of romancing my wife that have little to do with the price tag. For example, last Tuesday night my wife was feeling downcast about family not being able to visit us for Thanksgiving weekend due to illness. We had looked forward to roasting marshmallows and making smores with our nephews, and talking and eating with family. That night, as I went to the store to get a few necessities for the home, I picked up a a bottle of sparkling cider (a favorite of Ashton’s), some marshmallows, 70% dark chocolate, and some graham crackers. Ashton is kind of a chocolate snob and doesn’t really put up for anything less than 70% :). I went home and lit a candle, poured two glasses of cider (in our wine glasses to get a laugh), and made homemade smores in the oven. This simple gesture brought smiles and laughter to my wife’s face, and encouraged a very enjoyable evening talking with one another about God, life, and family.

So, if you are struggling in romancing your wife, don’t be afraid to be simple, and even silly sometimes. It is these things that are done in love that can warm your wife, and can cultivate a happy marriage.


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Here are a few from the Fall, which is quickly giving way to winter here in Louisville.

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Thankfulness Enriched by Belief

“The more absorbed I am in the gospel, the more grateful I become in the midst of my circumstances, whatever they may be.

Viewing life’s blessings as water in a drinking cup, I know that I could discontentedly focus on the half of the cup that seems empty, or I could gratefully focus on the half that is full. Certainly, the latter approach is the better of the two, yet the gospel cultivates within me a richer gratitude than this.

The gospel reminds me first that what I actually deserve from God is a full cup churning with the torments of His wrath. This is the cup that would be mine to drink if I were given what I deserve each day. With this understanding in mind, I see that to be handed a completely empty cup from God would be cause enough for infinite gratitude. If there were merely the tiniest drop of blessing contained in that otherwise empty cup, I should be blown away by the unbelievable kindness of God toward me. That God, in fact, has given me a cup that is full of “every spiritual blessing in Christ,” and this without the slightest admixture of wrath, leaves me truly dumbfounded with inexpressible joy. As for my specific earthly circumstances of plenty or want, I can see them always as infinite improvements on the hell I deserve.

When I look at any circumstance that God apportions me, I am first grateful for the wrath I am not receiving in that moment (The empty part of the cup never looked so good!). Second, I am grateful for the blessings that are given to me instead of His wrath. (Life’s blessings, however small, always appear exceedingly precious when viewed against the backdrop of the wrath I deserve.) This two-layered gratitude disposes my heart to give thanks in all things and it also lends a certain intensity to my giving of thanks. Such a gospel-generated intensity glorifies God, contributes to peace of mind, and keeps my foot from the path of foolishness and ruin.”

From A Gospel Primer for Christians: Learning to see the Glories of God’s Love

By: Milton Vincent



I read this section to my family tonight before going to bed. You can buy the book here, it comes highly recommend by Ashton and I.

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Realizing this is long overdue, it’s time for introductions.

Our beautiful daughter, Talitha Renee Moats, was born on October 21 at 5:04 a.m. She weighed in at 7lbs 8oz and was 20.5 inches long. The Lord gave Ashton great grace as she labored for 22 hours, pushing for two of those hours. I will hopefully tell some of the “labor story” at a later date. Talitha has been a great joy to us, but not without its struggles. Ashton’s painful recovery from an awful tear, the long nights of getting up every half hour, and learning to be a parent have been difficult. But, there is a beauty in the struggle. God is using these things to give us a deeper understanding of his love for his children, a practical knowledge that we have never had before.

Here are few pictures of this little girl, one or two per week she has been with us. I hope that being a father and being home more will give me more incentive to blog more faithfully.

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